Anger & Anger Management / Anger Treatment

Are you struggling to manage anger, or perhaps someone you care about is facing this challenge? At Pando, we understand that anger can be an overwhelming emotion, hurting you and your relationships, well-being, and overall quality of life.

Our team of compassionate and experienced therapists is here to help you find healthier ways to express and manage your anger.

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What is Anger?  Why am I Angry? 

Anger is often considered a secondary emotion, meaning that it typically arises as a reaction to a primary emotion or underlying feeling. It acts as a protective emotional response that shields you from experiencing or confronting deeper, more vulnerable emotions.

In this context, your anger serves as a defense mechanism, a way to mask the primary emotions that you may find uncomfortable, threatening, or difficult to express.

Some common primary emotions that can lead you to anger as a secondary emotion include:

• Fear:  When you feel threatened or in danger, anger can be a way to assert yourself or create a barrier between you and the source of fear. For example, if someone is afraid of rejection or abandonment in a relationship, they might respond with anger to avoid feeling vulnerable.

• Hurt or Pain: Physical or emotional pain can trigger anger. This anger may help you to distract from the pain or discomfort, making it easier to deal with the situation. For instance, if you feel hurt by a loved one's actions, you may express anger instead of acknowledging your emotional pain.

• Frustration: When you encounter obstacles, setbacks, or unmet needs, frustration can lead to anger. It can be easier to express anger at the external cause of frustration than to acknowledge the disappointment or helplessness that lies beneath.

• Injustice: Feeling that you've been treated unfairly or experiencing an injustice can trigger anger. This emotion may arise as a response to the perceived violation of your rights or dignity.

• Grief: People sometimes respond to grief with anger, as it can be difficult to confront the sadness, loss, and helplessness. Anger can offer a sense of control and power in a situation that feels out of control.

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Redefining Anger. Understanding your anger as a secondary emotion is crucial in therapy and self-awareness because it allows you to delve deeper into your emotional experiences. By identifying and addressing the primary emotions that underlie anger, you can develop healthier coping mechanisms and more constructive ways of expressing yourself. Our therapists work with you to explore these underlying feelings, helping you manage and resolve the root causes of your anger in a more constructive manner and learning new ways of expressing yourself.

This can be a transformational experience in your life.

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Symptoms of Anger

Anger is a natural and common emotion that everyone experiences. However, when anger becomes uncontrollable or destructive, it can lead to a wide range of physical, emotional, and interpersonal problems. Some common symptoms of unmanaged anger include:

 

Frequent outbursts -  Difficulty in expressing feelings effectively - Increased heart rate, tension, and restlessness - Problems with relationships, both personal and professional -Health issues like high blood pressure, headaches, and digestive problems - Self-destructive behaviours, etc.

 

Why am I angry all the time?  Why am I angry at everyone?

Why am I angry for no reason? Do I have anger issues?

Why do I overreact?

Understanding the underlying causes of your anger is a crucial step in learning to manage it. Our therapists are trained to help you explore and identify the triggers that contribute to your anger, whether they stem from past experiences, traumatic experiences, current stressors, or unmet needs.